tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8915423025917785375.post3255918676185009469..comments2024-03-26T22:40:30.265-07:00Comments on Dishin' It Out: Can you say Confused?Connie Vineshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17835205487088200480noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8915423025917785375.post-88453490297556629042008-08-04T14:02:00.000-07:002008-08-04T14:02:00.000-07:00A friend of mine went through the same issues. He...A friend of mine went through the same issues. Her mom married outside the Church; later divorced and wanted to be back in good graces. While driving one day, the mother said to her GROWN daughter, "All I have to do is confess the marriage was wrong and everything will be okay again."<BR/><BR/>Her daughter's response was "Huh?? So you just basically say to the priest the past 30 years never exisisted and us kids are just imaginary? WTF???"<BR/><BR/>I brought this up at a discussion and was told the mom 'didn't have a clear understanding of the sacrament'. With all the rules, who the hell does anymore?Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8915423025917785375.post-3471754900178089822008-08-04T08:09:00.000-07:002008-08-04T08:09:00.000-07:00Ladies,I truly enjoyed each of your responses. Re...Ladies,<BR/>I truly enjoyed each of your responses. Religion is such a touchy topic, and I did lose one reader because I posted about it. Oh well.<BR/><BR/>Knowing that I'm not the only confused one provided some sense of comfort to me. I haven't tried a non-denominational church, but that might be something I can do. Right now, I'm feeling pretty satisfied with myself and my connection to the Lord. :)<BR/><BR/>I did have to mention one more thing that baffled me about the church, although I didn't want to make it a topic in the blog. My husband's father just passed away and it was difficult for my husband in more ways than one. His mother and father divorced when Kelly was quite young. He was one of four children. When his father became a member of the Catholic Church with his new wife, in order to receive sacrament, be buried alongside her in a Catholic cemetery some day, he had to have his previous marriage annulled. Who made that decision? Just because a piece of paper is signed that doesn't erase what happened during all those years. Doesn't that create bastard children? What type of stigma does that leave on them? I have a very hard time believing God cares about a piece of paper that someone in a church initiated to meet their rules and regulations, but that's just me. Oh dear...you've got me rambling now. *lol*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09683064637626718318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8915423025917785375.post-139831535870516622008-08-04T06:25:00.000-07:002008-08-04T06:25:00.000-07:00I, too, cannot find a church I want to attend.I a...I, too, cannot find a church I want to attend.<BR/>I am as confused as you are.Estellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04199693275287344161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8915423025917785375.post-5535484586229799242008-08-04T04:22:00.000-07:002008-08-04T04:22:00.000-07:00I have the same struggle within my family, Ginger....I have the same struggle within my family, Ginger. I'm a Protestant, married to a Catholic, and I agreed to raise our children in his church. It infuriates me at times some of the comments made because of my refusal to join the 'true church'...he's said repeatedly that I won't be able to be buried next to him, and we will probably be in 2 separate 'heavens'. <BR/><BR/>I did take the classes, so I would understand what I was teaching my kids, and it astounded me that I had a better working knowledge of the Bible than the sponsers of the other potential candidates, or even my own hubby! Fr. Mark would start talking about a passage, and immediately I would know where it was in the Bible (although if it was in Ma, Mrk, Lk, or Jhn, I waited for him to mention the book!) and when he'd have us turn to it, I knew where to find it. The others were clueless, and Fr had to give them a page number.<BR/><BR/>We had an adult discussion group while the kids were in Sunday School, and I had to bite my tongue several times as they 'concluded'...it seems to me that Catholics are so concerned with doing things 'right'...and they also believe in works, not faith, and I personally don't believe that just because I don't confess my sins to a priest, or say 10 Hail Mary's, I'll be rejected from Heaven.<BR/><BR/>I'm also living proof that taking unlawful Communion did not result in a bolt of lightening! It's the same God, but yet I'm forbidden to partake of the Eucharistic sacrament, because I'm not Catholic.<BR/><BR/>It just reminds me of that joke several years ago:<BR/><BR/>Man dies and goes to heaven. St. Peter meets him and shows him several doors on the way to his 'room'. <BR/><BR/>They pass by one door, and 'Hallelujia!' and 'Praise Jesus' is heard.<BR/><BR/>'Fundamentalists,' says SP.<BR/><BR/>They go by another door. Quiet murmers are heard.<BR/><BR/>'Baptists.'<BR/><BR/>Suddenly, SP motions for the man to be quiet, and tiptoes past another door. Once they are five feet from it, SP begins walking and talking normally again.<BR/><BR/>'Why did we have to be so quiet back there,' the man asks.<BR/><BR/>'That's the Catholics. They think they're the only ones up here!'<BR/><BR/>If your father embraced Christ as his savior, and you do too, yes you WILL see him again! All you have to do is believe he died for your sins, and the rest will fall into place. Sounds like you're on the right track. Organized religion/brick and mortar buildings aren't for everyone. It's what you believe in your heart.<BR/><BR/>Sorry this is so long!Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8915423025917785375.post-28920802623083729342008-08-04T04:21:00.000-07:002008-08-04T04:21:00.000-07:00Good Morning and Good Luck in finding a church!I a...Good Morning and Good Luck in finding a church!<BR/><BR/>I am personally not affiliated... Like you I am from a "Split" family but was raised Catholic. <BR/><BR/>As an adult I was not allowed to be married in a Cathollic Church (My husband was not a US Citizen and had to be married within 90 days of entering the US... The Catholic Church refused to marry us without 3 months of classes, but I digress...) Regardless I stopped attending mass at age 20 and got married in a Methodist Church.<BR/><BR/>What I have found most like "me" is the Non Denominal Churches... Check them out, they believe the Bible is God's word and that is about all, after that you pick your own beliefs, but they have a beautiful ceremony and fellowship that to me is as important as what they want me to believe...<BR/><BR/>Good Luck... I am rambling :)<BR/>AngieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com