I'm sharing the link below because I read the article and it really struck a note with me. I was married in the 60s and the rules that applied then were so much less tolerant than those that govern relationships today, and truly represented by the author of this fine piece. Women never "played house." Marriage or nothing, and if you gave into emotions and got yourself into trouble, you might as well have been wearing a Scarlet Letter. People always speculated at weddings, making side bets on whether the bride was pregnant or not. God help you if you had a baby that wasn't born at least 10 months after your walked down the aisle. You had shamed yourself and your entire family.
Now I find the second set of rules to be equally as true. We all are reaching for the unobtainable star...at least it seems a million miles out of my grasp. This made me stop and think about why I started writing in the first place. I think I have my perspective back, and I thank my good friend (she knows who she is) for sharing this with me. By the way...Jenny Cruisie wrote this article in 2002, so evidently things in the writing world haven't changed as much as I thought.
Note: The Scarlet Letter is the classic tale of a lover's triangle. It was written in the 1860s by Nathaniel Hawthorne, but is set in the mid 1600s. Hester Prynne is forced to wear the scarlet A, in retribution for her sin of adultery.