Think about it...Ramses bullied Moses, The whites bullied the blacks...and the Indians, Hitler bullied the Jews, the democrats bully the GOP and vice versa, Al Queda bullies everyone, and we act like it's only children entering puberty who have the problem. We learn from the way we live, and from years of examples, we've taught our children to elevate themselves at the expense of others.
I doubt there is one person in this world that hasn't as one time or another been the victim of a bully. It's no wonder that our younger generation is one of entitlement and bullying. We've taught them in the wrong way by giving them everything they wanted or demanded and not expecting anything in return. How many times have you used a racial slur or unkind remark in front of your children. Use the word, "hate" much?
Here's part of what will be included in my guide:
It’s a well-known fact that people with self-esteem issues like to make themselves appear bigger, better and smarter by bullying those they can. What sorts of things constitute physical bullying?
- Basically, any type of unwanted, unwarranted to unhelpful touching.
- Name calling
- Unkind remarks
- Rude stares
- Making threats
- Spreading rumors or gossip
- Putting someone down
- Any verbal acts of unkindness directed to someone with limitations that keep them from taking a stand for themselves.
SO…what can we do to remedy these problems? If you recognize yourself in any of these situations as the “bully,” then stop the bad behavior. A better person will treat others as they would like to be treated. Take a moment and picture yourself on the receiving end of your nastiness. How would you react, and more importantly how would it make your feel? I’m guessing, not very good.
If you aren’t a “bully” but have observed someone being one, you can still play a vital role by following one of these guidelines:
- Tell a teacher or another adult you trust what you’ve witnessed.
- If you’re invited to join in harassing someone or making fun of them, say “No.”
- Support the victim by extending friendship. Advise them to tell a teacher or counselor.
- If you are frightened that you might become a victim, ask the teacher/adult to keep your name confidential.
- Don’t engage the bully physically. Ask for help.
- Remember: Saying nothing and watching is almost as bad as being the bully. Silence indicates approval, so tell someone.
What if you are the victim? Try following these tips:
- Avoid reacting whenever possible. Reaction=satisfaction. Deny the bully pleasure..
- Don’t engage. If someone shove’s you, don’t shove back.
- Stay in an area where teachers or adults are present. A bully is less likely to perform in front of an audience of grownups.
- Stay with friends. There is safety in numbers
- If the bullying takes places on a bus, find a seat near the driver.
- Don’t flash expensive items that a bully might want to steal.
As I said before...we can't change anyone but ourselves, so until we start exhibiting model behavior for our children to follow, bullying will continue to thrive in our lives. Take a moment and think about a time you were bullied....please share it with us. I truly believe the the old adage, 'misery loves company' is why there will always be those who strive to bring us down to their level of agony. Don't let them.