Thursday, March 3, 2011
Are you Shy?
My mother once told me I've never met a stranger. In my opinion, a stranger is only that until you introduce yourself and get to know the person. Of course, there are some people I wish I had left as a stranger, but that's another post.
The Internet has provided an outlet for those who suffer from shyness. Being the faceless person behind email posts allows one to let their personality shine and interact in ways they normally wouldn't. So, what's the difference between being afraid to speak up about normal topics and having the ability to sell yourself?
That's where my "shy" gene surfaces. I've tried selling before, and I suck at it. Salesmen and women are a rare breed, and there are some who could sell a match to someone standing near a house fire. I've tried cosmetics and jewelry...both items that women love. While I took classes on how to overcome rejection when trying to book home parties, I couldn't stop taking "no" for an answer.
I knew from classes that if someone says, "Oh, I can't have one at my house, it's too small," I was supposed to suggest holding a party elsewhere. Or if the woman said, "My husband would hate me," I was supposed to counter with "Aren't you an equal owner of your home?" I just couldn't do it. No meant no, and I don't like pushy people, so I've never been one.
Where is all this leading? I want to know how other authors sell themselves and their work. How do you justify expecting a reader...especially in this economy, to spend $13.95 for your trade paperback when Wal-Mart sells Nora Roberts for $3.96? Although I know I'm a good author and have written enjoyable stories, this is where I have a hard time standing up and sounding off. It would be nice to hear from both the reader's and author's perspectives, so comments are more than welcome.